"In the 1980s, $1,000 was really a lot of money. When I presented the money to my parents I could see the surprise on their faces," he says. "After they had confirmed the money wasn't stolen they both sighed with relief."
But they were still not convinced. What finally swayed them was a phone call from Wang.
"I begged Wang to make the call," says Bendza. "Wang told my parents how serious I was and asked them to give me a chance."
Bendza's parents were both government officials and had hoped he would follow in their footsteps. However, they accepted his plans, while also betting with their son that he would soon return.
It was 1983 when Bendza moved to China, at just 14 years old. There were no direct flights so he was forced to travel through several countries on a long arduous journey.
"It was a really long and complicated journey for a child, but luckily I wasn't abducted by traffickers," he says.
Bendza's uncle worked at the Gabon embassy in Beijing and picked him up at the airport.
"He was puzzled that I kept looking left and right, my eyes searching for something," says Bendza. "I was looking for people who could fly."
His uncle laughed when he said this and explained that it was movie technicians who made people fly.
"I kept saying no and begged him to find the flying people for me. So he took me to Beijing Film Studio where I saw actors flying, hauled into the air on ropes," he says.
He was disappointed and after just two months in Beijing, decided to go to Shaolin Temple in Henan.
"There were few foreigners in China in the 1980s, especially black people from African countries. Wherever I went people pointed fingers at me like I was from another planet, but I wasn't annoyed because they were all very friendly," he says.
"The people at Shaolin Temple were really amazing. Although they couldn't fly like in the movies, still their martial arts made a deep impression on me. I told myself I had gone to the right place."
Bendza's Mandarin still wasn't good, so after less than a year he left the temple and returned to Beijing where he studied Mandarin at university for a year.
After that he enrolled at the Beijing Sport University studying traditional Chinese martial arts.
"I stayed at the university for more than 10 years and finished both bachelor and postgraduate studies," he says.
"I really need to thank those teachers who not only taught me Chinese martial arts history and other subjects, but also helped me build a solid foundation for being a real martial artist."
Bendza's natural aptitude for martial arts, and hard training saw him progress rapidly and won him recognition from many martial art masters.
"The teacher would put a nail with the sharp end up under your bum when you were practicing a stance so if you lowered yourself too far the nail would hurt you," Bendza recalls.
The tough training paid off though as Bendza won awards in China and abroad.
He also attracted the eye of directors and he went on to play roles in both movies and television series.
He did not tell his mother about these successes, and she only found out when she read about him winning an international martial arts competition in France.
Bendza began to gain recognition for his achievements in Gabon, but the media there were initially unkind. One newspaper ran a front-page cartoon of him standing with two suitcases, a foot in China and a foot in Gabon, but with his head turned toward China. The insinuation was that he had turned his back on his homeland.
"The media used the cartoon to show their dissatisfaction," he says. "When I returned to Gabon my mother told me I had to do something to change this bias against me. She took it very seriously."
Bendza organized a free martial arts show as a way of changing opinions and media coverage become more positive.
"When I left, my parents saw me off at the airport and told me they thought I was great. When they said that and my mother hugged me, I cried like a baby. That was the first time in 10 years I had won recognition from my mother," he says.
Martial arts changed his life and he has hopes to promote it across Africa. But his work has also moved away from purely performing toward promoting cultural exchanges.
As a member of International Martial Arts Association, he organizes Chinese martial arts teams to perform and teach in Africa.
Bendza has been in China for 30 years and witnessed the country's reform and opening up process. He married his Chinese wife in 2007 and they have a 16-month-old son.
"I have become used to life in China and enjoy being here with my family very much," he says.
Contact the writer at hena@chinadaily.com.cn.
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